Life does not happen to us......For many years I used to blame others for what was happening to me. You know, parents for their poor upbringing, friends for not being there, strangers for being more lucky, jobs that were being biased, public transport that was never on time, a country that could not accommodate me, the world that is not revolving around my precious self and life for being unfair. These might sound familiar for some, for others it is just a way of coping, and certainly this is THE TRUTH for most of us, isn't it. Right! Living in this bubble for 33 years I managed to suffocate myself and become a pawn that was struggling to win, to be right, to acquire, to hoard. This eventually led to an unwanted mental illness with all its consequences; more blaming, more suffering, more whining.
"Why is this happening to me?" This is a self-absorbed question that I would mutter, focusing again on myself and my importance on this planet. By the way, I never got a concrete answer, just more of the above. My canvas was full of persistent emotions and feelings, desperately waiting for someone to fix me, save me, change the color palette as I was drowning in my couch and in my fixed mindset.
Life happens from us......I will always be grateful for that light-bulb moment I had and which directed me straight to the source of everything; myself! Oh yes that was a revealing moment when I simply questioned my belief system and challenged it until I felt very uncomfortable. The root of the "problem", the solution I was looking for, was hiding within me and this revelation opened up a whole new world with endless possibilities. Could I just stop being a follower and instead create my life? Could I take control over my feelings, my beliefs and my values? I was closer to myself than ever. I'm not talking about selfishness here, but just being aware of my potential, my strengths, my identity. This awareness led to a personal transformation; everything that was hidden within, blossomed into a flower, bright as the sun.
"But it is not easy!" Here we go! Who said it was easy? I didn't say it was easy! I'm suggesting that it is possible that your beliefs limit you from seeing your potential and that change is just a choice away. Stop putting yourself into a defence mode. Stop avoiding responsibility for your life. I know, as I have been very comfortable too, it is always easier to blame and be the victim. I wrote the book! But guess what! Nobody is going to fix you and solve your problems. Just you, by being yourself; and this is YOUR responsibility, to listen to that little voice inside of you and start taking action instead of sitting on the couch or bed crying for life being unfair. Do it now! There is not a right moment to start doing; create your own life, choose the palette you want, the people you want, create the experiences you want. Still scared? Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Maybe you are not ready yet. When you are though, you will know it.
So every time you will be saying that "it is not easy", I will be asking "is it possible? Life does not happen to us, it happens from us!
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I see myself as the canvas where I put creativity, thoughts, ideas, inspiration and create a new reality. Eventually I become the architect of my life.